I’m so sick and tired of ladies being taken advantage of and especially on the internet!
I have often wondered why so many of us ladies fall victim to those “Fame scams”. I think that when starting out in ANY industry, woman might feel as if they have to prove themselves in a manly dominated commercial, fitness or even the corporate business field. Well, today I am here to tell you that you are good enough to be respected in any work environment regardless of its form of discrimination in whatever form.
Gone are the days where woman are forced to gracefully parade around in “voortrekker” skirts and stay at home to submissively bake bread. Yes ladies we are now emancipated as powerful individuals who if we choose to, bake low GI bread, thank you very much!!!!
The price you pay for success should be just that! Hard work, sweat and more hard work! “This is not a scam, we assist numerous models, I can get you there! Sounds familiar? No thank you, I can WORK myself up until I get there, seeing as YOU eventually WILL ladies!
How about these words; “I can get you on a cover of a magazine if you work with me...I can get you that first place...I can get you that promotion.” This is how I see it, if you want to offer me something that is just too good to be true, speak to my husband and if the offer is still available after not being able to speak to me, then it’s starting to sound like business. It surely is a warning sign if you get approached by a man and when directing the person to your agent or husband...etc, the offer slowly deteriorates, fades away or you just never again hear of that once before extremely important person. I would urge all ladies, to tread carefully especially on the internet. Identity theft is no myth and your hot, sexy fitness photo might just end up somewhere “X” rated! Or you might just jump on the first plane to the US only to find out that the big break you were waiting for was just some “sleeseball” wanting to “meet” up with little old hot you! Eeeewww!!! You are laughing now, but it happens! Then again if that’s your sort of thing, that’s just fine and dandy, but uhm I have tried to stay clear of this stigma.
No photographer can GET you a magazine cover!!!!! Embrace it, forget about it and move on! You have to work for it and until you see yourself on the cover; all promises to the contrary should be seen as time wasting and just an empty nothing in the hope of them getting something else! A credible magazine or photographer, and now I am talking about credible fitness publications, will never ask you to fly halfway around the world, on your expense for them just to meet you! They will never ask you to parade around half naked for them to decide on whether they would like to do a test shoot. I doubt that this look appeals to healthy fit woman in general.
This does not just apply to the fitness industry. In any commercial field you have to start at the bottom and this is such a vulnerable place for all us intelligent woman (hee hee!). Stay true to your values and remember what a great weapon you have by just being you.
My top warning tips in the fitness industry:
- Anyone making you a promise of fame should be treated with great suspicion. Guilty until proven innocent, I guess!
- Always have someone acting as your barrier when you are suspecting any “funny business”;
- No one can promise you a magazine cover, a TV insert or any win this can only be accomplished by hard work, so get going!
- Stop being so susceptive towards ridiculous promises, small talk and people trying to connect with you purely to gain something, you are not willing to give, in return.
Act like the strong woman you are, and you will be treated as such!
Food for thought: Be careful what you think, as your thoughts become your actions; Be careful how you act, as your actions become your character; Be careful of what character you portray, as this will become your destiny!!!
On a different note, I hope to see you all at the great Legally fit Power session on 14 April 2012!!!
14 April 2012 Cnr Nedcare & Garsfontein rd, Moreletapark, Pretoria, Parkview Mall
Event will be held on the Upper deck by Col’caccios.
(Book a friend and get a discount!)
(Non- refundable DEPOSIT OF R90 TO SECURE BOOKING: Payable at JVL Pretoria, Cnr Nedcare & Garsfontein rd, Moreletapark, Pretoria)
Small breakfast and goody bag included!!
08:30- 09:15 Legal Motivation
09:30 - 10:30 Fitness Session
10:30 - 10:45 Breakfast and Health Shakes by JVL
10:45 - 11:30 Let's talk Fitness...with the best in the World
(health snacks served throughout seminar)
See you all there!